In part two of this series on connecting with younger parts, Dorset Campbell-Ross offers practical tools to soothe these parts and give them an opportunity to be heard. I invited Dorset to write on this topic after we exchanged some ideas on the CNVC Certified Trainers list and discovered that we each had developed, on opposite sides of the earth, similar and yet distinct practices.
As a basic human need, empathy can be deeply healing, clarifying, restorative, and liberating, and help us create positive change both internally and externally.
By practicing observations in NVC, we are retraining our brains and neural pathways by stating what we’re experiencing in a positive way and being proactive: sharing what we’re seeing and hearing (observations), how it lives in us (feelings), what we want on a core level (needs) and then what we desire on a strategy level (requests).
While petitioning in New York City to protect the critically endangered vaquita porpoise, I encountered many responses from people (ranging from very positive to very negative) and worked on my own reactions to remain out of judgment.
Focusing on the positive by training our brains to listen for what we want (on a core level of needs) and then to ask for what we want (as opposed to what we don’t want) with a positive request leads to much better results than focusing on the negative.
In my last blog post, "See Me Beautiful," I wrote about the “positivity” of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) on a philosophical level. Understanding this “positive” orientation of NVC is helpful on a practical level because once you “grok” this (get the concept and integrate it) it will give you more ease in practicing and living NVC … Continue reading The Positivity of NVC: Needs – Part II
Nonviolent Communication is a form of social change, and addressing power is intrinsic to creating that change.
I've long been a fan of Amanda Palmer and her band the Dresden Dolls (if you don't know her mix of cabaret-punk music, check out Coin Operated Boy which says a lot in three minutes about human longing.) About two years ago Amanda gave a TED talk on The Art of Asking and now has a … Continue reading True Love: Open Hearted Giving and Receiving