By practicing observations in NVC, we are retraining our brains and neural pathways by stating what we’re experiencing in a positive way and being proactive: sharing what we’re seeing and hearing (observations), how it lives in us (feelings), what we want on a core level (needs) and then what we desire on a strategy level (requests).
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Putting NVC Principles to the Test while Petitioning in NYC
While petitioning in New York City to protect the critically endangered vaquita porpoise, I encountered many responses from people (ranging from very positive to very negative) and worked on my own reactions to remain out of judgment.
The Positivity of NVC: Requests (part 3)
Focusing on the positive by training our brains to listen for what we want (on a core level of needs) and then to ask for what we want (as opposed to what we don’t want) with a positive request leads to much better results than focusing on the negative.
The Positivity of NVC: Needs (part 2)
In my last blog post, "See Me Beautiful," I wrote about the “positivity” of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) on a philosophical level. Understanding this “positive” orientation of NVC is helpful on a practical level because once you “grok” this (get the concept and integrate it) it will give you more ease in practicing and living NVC … Continue reading The Positivity of NVC: Needs (part 2)
The Positivity of NVC: See Me Beautiful (part 1)
Lately, I have been fascinated with what I like to call the “positivity” of NVC. The more I think about this aspect, the more I see it as core to what I consider NVC’s “magic.” This “positivity” is what makes NVC powerful and transformative.
Training in Tenderness (Book Review)
Lately, I’ve been reading books that offer an intersection with the practice of NVC. One of these is Training in Tenderness: Buddhist Teachings on Tsewa, the Radical Openness of Heart That Can Change the World by Dzigar Kongtrul Rimpoche. (Listen to a podcast that I recorded about this book review here [27:22]) I Googled the word … Continue reading Training in Tenderness (Book Review)
Curiosity, The Art of Waiting, and Finding Peace
While many people associate empathy and deep listening as the cornerstone of Collaborative Communication, equally important is the skill of expressing our needs honestly to other people. Read on for a real-life example of how I handled it when I was faced with an opportunity to express my needs.
Scary Honesty, Part 2: What response did I get?
While many people associate empathy and deep listening as the cornerstone of Collaborative Communication, equally important is the skill of expressing our needs honestly to other people. Read on for a real-life example of how I handled it when I was faced with an opportunity to express my needs.
Scary Honesty: An Essential Tool in my Communication Toolbox
While many people associate empathy and deep listening as the cornerstone of Collaborative Communication, equally important is the skill of expressing our needs honestly to other people. Read on for a real-life example of how I handled it when I was faced with an opportunity to express my needs.
Celebrate International Peace Day!
On September 21, 2018, I encourage you to join people around the world in celebrating the 37th annual International Day of Peace, informally known as "Peace Day." Established by a unanimous United Nations resolution, Peace Day provides a globally shared day for all of humanity to contribute to building a Culture of Peace in our … Continue reading Celebrate International Peace Day!
