Books by Dian


Connecting Across Differences, 2nd Edition

by Dian Killian, Ph.D. and Jane Connor Ph.D.

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What People are Saying:
“Connecting Across Differences has changed how I approach my work and life. Using empathy to connect with my feelings and needs and with the feelings and needs of the people around me has made me happier and more effective. Jane and Dian, thank you for guiding me on this journey.”
–ROBERT MCGUIRE, Executive Director, Merck, Inc.

“Dian Killian is a remarkable woman with a great message that brings wisdom to the field of nonviolence.”
–HOWARD GLASSER, author, Transforming the Difficult Child: The Nurtured Heart Approach

“Connecting Across Differences capacitates learners with essential personal and interpersonal skills and knowledge needed to nurture and build a culture of peace. Killian and Connor’s thoughtfully constructed guidebook opens doors to the possibility for authentic dialogue between self and others and illuminates multiple paths to living with integrity. This book should be on the shelf of every peacemaker.”
–TONY JENKIS, Director of Education, National Peace Academy

“Having taught Nonviolent Communication for many years, it seems to me that this book covers every question that I have had myself or been asked about how to learn and integrate this simple yet challenging re-frame of communication with self and others. I am grateful to Dian and Jane for this contribution to the field of applied nonviolence.”
–KIT MILLER, Director, M.K. Gandhi Institute For Nonviolence

G9783873879225erman translation (Deutsche)
Verbindung herstellen – Trennendes überbrücken

Click here to buy the German version of “Connecting Across Differences.”



By Dian Killian. Illustrated by Mark Badger.

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What People are Saying: “I’ve been studying Nonviolent Communication (NVC) for three years, I just picked up a copy of Urban Empathy after an NVC workshop, and I LOVE it! . . . Seeing examples from real-life encounters . . . has been eye-opening. I’ve re-read all of it several times. . . I have also found it reassuring, in that the author demonstrates it is possible to ‘fail’ at using NVC at any given moment, and then make tremendous use of the occasion as a learning opportunity. At times I’ve found it difficult to express what I value so deeply about NVC, and I am thrilled to have this little treasure to share with folks who are new to it. The personal-experience-as-graphic-novel approach really brings the ideas of NVC to life.” — Amazon Customer Review