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Collaborative Communication Folding Cards

Created by Work Collaboratively

Handy pocket folding card with the four steps of Collaborative Communication, tips about how to practice each step, plus lists of feeling words and needs words — all in the palm of your hand! Keep at your desk at work, in your purse or wallet, or on your fridge or bulletin board with a magnet!  Get one for yourself, and your family, friends, and colleagues. 

$5 for one card, $12 for 3 cards, or $30 for ten. 

Free shipping in the U.S. and Canada. 
$5 shipping/handling outside the U.S. or Canada. 

Low tech ordering: Please send payment via Paypal to, including the mailing address where to send the cards. Or a check made payable in U.S. $ to Work Collaboratively, LLC, 340 Decatur St., Brooklyn, NY 11233.

“They are lovely – sturdy and useful. Thank you for this fine product. So much nicer than a whole sheet of printer paper.”  –– LK

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GROK Relationship Games is a set of 20 relationship games and exercises designed to help us listen deeply to each other’s values, needs, wishes, hopes and dreams; and to listen to oneself for clarity and self-connection. These games are fun, engaging, and educational; with no ‘winners and losers’. GROK offers a different model, a game where everybody not only wins, but also experiences deeper connection with themselves and others.  Purchase here.

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Designed to increase children’s social and emotional learning, these illustrated feelings and needs cards are for children ages 3-10. Teachers, parents, and counselors use Kids GROK to improve communication, increase empathy and honesty, and to understand, accept, and regulate their emotions (includes instruction booklet with 22 games).  Purchase here.


Below are books that Dian has reviewed on her blog or podcast and/or recommends for those interested in Collaborative Communication.

Note: By purchasing books I recommend at Amazon, you support my work (via commissions) on qualifying purchases.


Learn how to develop compassion, warmth, connection,
and an open heart — with others and yourself through this book that offers a Buddhist perspective on compassion.  We are featuring Training in Tenderness by Dzigar Kongtrul here because Dian reviewed this book in Episode 13 of her Podcast. You can purchase the book here

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A number of characteristics of the neural encoding function in the brain are at the root of — and help to explain — conflict in our social relations and why some conflicts are difficult to prevent and resolve.  Embodied Conflict: The Neural Basis of Conflict and Communication explains all of this in layman’s terms, outlining seven key characteristics and exploring their implications for communication, relationship, and conflict resolution.


Powers that Be

In our fast-paced secular world, God and theology are second-class citizens. Money, politics, sports, and science seem better suited to the hard realities of our world. As the church steeple has been eclipsed by the skyscraper as the centerpiece of the urban landscape, so has the divine realm been set aside in favor of more immediate human experience. One sad consequence of this shift is the loss of spiritual and theological bearings, most clearly evident in our inability to understand or speak about such things. If the old way of viewing the universe no longer works, something else has to replace it.


The Chalice and The Blade by Riane Eisler

A conceptual framework for studying social systems with particular attention to how a society constructs the roles and relations between the female and male halves of humanity.